When men get anxious they tend to get controlling. It can change your tone with your kids and partner, leading to an negative escalation of the moment.
1. Check in with your partner and kids. Slow down and listen
2. Demonstrate “Quiet Love”
The still calm exchange of connection- requires being still and not letting your mind be in the past or future. Your partner will notice when you are distraction.
–FACE your partner, body positioning is key
–Maintain and expressive face when listening
Science to Building Resilience
You will exhibit 2 levels to brain development when facing a threatening challenge.
1. Recognizing the threat – The brain learns most rapidly under life threat so if your survival is threatened the brain starts developing new pathways to figure out how to respond and adapt.
2. Love & Safety – When we feel safe and secure we take risks and our mind is more open and we get less rigid. It takes the combo of a life threatening situation with love and safety
When someone is facing a challenge they get tunnel vision and freak out and resilient goes out the window but if you can provide safety through love they stay soft and open and build that capacity.
Maximize Being Together More
First, create some structure to your schedule so that there’s accountability and space to optimize.
1. Define an objective- do you want to overall be more productive, spend more quality time together, manage screen time vs outdoor time, etc
2. Dedicate undivided attention- create the space for members of your family to feel connected without distraction
3. Be Inclusive– Involve others when shaping the family schedule, members of the family will feel better knowing they had a voice/ were able to contribute
Who knows you best?
1. Each family member makes 10 questions about themselves.
2. Then each member of the family attempts to answer those questions.
3. When answers are revealed, you’ll find out who can answer the most questions about you and “Who Knows You Best”!
AustinFit Mental Health Column with John Howard
Relationship Therapist | Educator
John Howard, MA is a relationship therapist and educator with over 15 years of experience helping people have awesome relationships. He is dedicated to helping spread love in the world by helping people have stronger, healthier relationships. He helps singles find and develop great relationships and helps couples stay on track and enjoy their life together for the long-term.
John maintains a private practice, Austin Professional Counseling, in Austin, TX where he helps couples heal their wounds, reset, and thrive, and helps singles date wisely.
LOOK AT YOUR CASH SITUATION
Cash is king. Cash is how you leverage a return when you come out of something like this. People panic and people misprice, banks get tight with cash, have as much cash as you can.
Hold your Mortgage
Defer Credit Payments
Seek Price Breaks
Cut Expenses & Overhead
Get Handheld Through this Process
Go into a preferably smaller branch, get a human, ask for a private banker and get “handheld” through the process. Consider the following:
Government Assistance Links
Real Estate Property Owners
–Contact Broker on the Insurance side for clauses
–Nurture your current tenants (it costs more to replace them)
–Contact your Lenders
Some of the greatest successes come after a downturn
–Stay in front of your audience, emphasizing your value/ free content so when things get back to normal, that audience stays loyal.
–Optimizing in Real Estate after 9-18 months (slow moving)
— Optimizing through the Stock Market (always 6 months ahead of the Real Estate Market)
This is an Opportunity
Look for the best, expect the worst
The reason we had a opioid addiction is the believe we shouldn’t feel any kind of pain. Now there is this believe we can’t have any economic pain allowed
Tribe of Millionaires by David Osborn
Proud Father & Husband | Author & Entrepreneur
David Osborn is a husband, father, entrepreneur, public speaker and author. He is a principal franchisee of the 7th-largest real estate company in the U.S. A firm believer in the principles of knowledge sharing and giving back, he regularly speaks and teaches on entrepreneurial accountability and contributes to causes such as cancer prevention and clean-water well building with nonprofit organizations.
A New York Times Bestselling Author, and having built one of the top real estate brokerages in the world, founding over 50 companies, David has certainly found financial freedom.
He believes deeply in the freedom derived from his success is what truly awards him the time to focus on the importance on what matters most: being a proud father of two beloved daughters, a son and husband to the wonderful and talented Traci Osborn.
He loves travel, skiing, golf, and reading, especially with his kids and family.
David Osborn on the Front Row Dads Podcast
Check out his all of books
0-5 min — Check-ins and announcements with some guys
5-10 min — John Kane introduces Jim Sheils through a personal anecdote
10-30 min — Jim Sheils presents “Tech Distancing (Intermittent Tech Fasting)” among more key strategies to better structuring home life with EVERYONE in the family getting on-board
If you do nothing else, sit down and do a schedule
30-45 min — Regroup and share ideas
Nick Matlack — My kids iphones are all paired with my phone so I have them limited to a few hours each day. Once they reach a limit, I have to approve more time on my phone.
Will Schatz — The schedule in our family has been key. While I’m working, my wife has been handling things most of the day really well with our 9 month old, 5 year old and 11 year old. Most days it’s been smoother than an average weekend day, and it’s because of the schedule
Espen Simonsen My wife and my two 18 year olds are planning Ours every morning, and we need to adjust during the day every single day 🙂
David Vanderpool Uses a physical box [ we call it the LOVE BOX] to put all technology in while “tech distancing”
Ryan Snow I created “project/ creative time” in the calendar for the kids
Quick Exercise | The 75 year old self
1. Picture your 75 year old self
2. What would my 75 year old self say to me right now
“Holy Shit Jim what an opportunity you were young healthy you had everyone at home, food, water, family, that’s the good stuff. Eat that up while you can” – 75 year old Jim Sheils
3. Generating potential feedback from your older, wiser self, could provide you with a perspective that deviates from your current one
Family Board Meeting Impact
His family board meeting strategy and education matrix changed the guys in the group forever.
John Kane’s daughter said, “Dad, if we never had Christmas again, I’d be okay, but please never stop our board meetings”. THAT is a testimonial.
He’s not only achieved great success in business (real estate) but he’s truly a father first, then everything else 2nd.
Before the call, consider doing the following…
1. Get his book (avail on audio). It’s a quick read.
2. Listen to Jim on the Front Row Dad podcast.
Jon Berghoff shares what his company is learning about designing and facilitating powerful interactions online.
If you are trying to move in-person events online, find new ways of serving your customers, gathering communities or teams… this is for you. Contact Jon @
0-6 min — Jon Berghoff intro by Jon Vroman
6-10 min — Berghoff provides context to the discussion “The World’s Transcendent Purpose” & serving your total reach
13-17 min — Quick Exercise “Story of Adapting to Change”
For those playing from home | Think of a time in live you had to adapt to change. What happened. What did you learn about your self, what lessons from that moment do you need to be reminded of right now? What’s a strength or super power from that moment you expressed, that you’ve lost during this time?
18-26 min — Lessons that emerged from our small group shares on adapting to change
26-29 min — Reflecting on the emotions surfaced by the break out room experience and it’s application to our own communities
29-35 min — Excerpt from an article by Otto Scharmer
35-48 min — The Evolutionary Leap | Understanding where we were, where we are and how to take the Evolutionary Leap
48-52 min — Unlocking Collective Wisdom
52-66 min– Jon draws a diagram on Tapping into Wisdom & Designing the Conversation
66-75 min — Q & A with Jon Berghoff
80-86 min — How to train more with Jon Berghoff & Xchange
Online XCHANGE Experience, May 6-8: Register at — http://xchangeapproach.com/online/
86-120 min Q & A with Jon Berghoff
The Evolutionary LEAP
If we are facing an evolutionary leap, what does that leap look like?
— How to accelerate the rate of strategic renewal
— How to enable innovation to come from everywhere
— How do we create the conditions that inspire people to voluntarily bring their passion, creativity, and innovation, to work?
— How do we enable self managed learning
–How do we strive for experiences of wholeness
–How to we connect to our evolutionary purpose
In a time of crisis, people will not tolerate in-authenticity.
Unlocking Collective Wisdom | Key Points
1. The Primary Indicator that consistently predicts which groups tap their collective intelligence are the interaction patterns between the group members
2. The most common place that people experience FLOW is in conversation with others. At work, conversation with colleagues is of of the most flow-inducing activities
Designing the Conversation
How to invite people into the conversation
1. Tell people what it is and is not
2. They need to have their tech ready | create availability to help them master their technology controls
3. Invite to confirm that they understand it will be interactive
1. INTRO | How you introduce the group to the content and each other. Giving everyone an equal voice opportunity to create psychological safety.
–Ask life-giving questions | which bring life, are relevant, and are accessible (simple)
–Give people time to reflect on the question
2. CONVO | The convo itself. When you go into groups with the powerful question(s) with 2-3 people
3. OUTRO | Identify, vote on, and present best lessons/ ideas
Overlap of Leading & Learning
Otto Scharmer Excerpt
1. Everything we knew wasn’t sustainable is now collapsing
2. RISE: As systems collapse, people rise
What are you going to do to be the person that helps another person be that person that rises..
3. CONNECTION: We are one system
4. A brand new superpower: Awareness-based Collective Action
5. Systemic Failures: Big Government, Big Market, Big Data
6. STOPPING: When you face disruption… you need to wake up
7. CHOICE: When waking up, we have a choice
8. Re-imagining our civilization: New innovation infrastructures
The Impact of Organizational Change on Employee Well-Being in American Workplaces
Change Lab 2019 | Workplace Survey
–Why Measure The Impact Of Organizational Change On Wellbeing?
–What Did We Learn About Successfully Creating Change While Supporting People’s Wellbeing?
–How Can You Improve Change & Wellbeing In Your Workplace
–Where Might You Start?
The Living Company by Aric de Geus
The Principles of Scientific Management by Frederick Taylor
The Future of Management by Gary Hamel
Reinventing Organizations by Frederic Laloux
Father | Husband | Founder XCHANGE
Jon Berghoff is the founder of the XCHANGE Approach, a scientific approach to unlocking collective wisdom in any group.
These are extraordinary times, which call for exponential conversations. This is why innovative leaders have run to XCHANGE as the solution for bringing together companies, communities, customers in powerful ways.
Before COVID-19, XCHANGE was leaned on by companies like Facebook, BMW, Costco, to facilitate powerful, large scale conversations… when the stakes were highest.
In the last two weeks, change agents of every type: coaches, consultants, and thought leaders… are using XCHANGE to create connection, community and accelerated learning in every imaginable environment. all of it digitally, of course.
Jon is in high demand, known for his authenticity and highly engaging style of creating powerful learning experiences for participants.
If you are trying to move in-person events online, find new ways of serving your customers, gathering communities or teams… this is for you. Contact Jon @
How to ATTRACT, INFLUENCE, CONVERT, & GROW
0-10 min — Stellar intro by Matt Storm who led the call today, checking in with a few guys & recent wins
10-15 min — Overview of the kind of people on LinkedIn
15-25 min — Why LinkedIn?
25-32 min — Influencing the Algorithm
32-50 min — Content Making
50-75 min — Q & A with Josh
— 303 million monthly active Users 177 million are from the USA
— 2 people join every second 41% of millionaires use LinkedIn
— Average Salary Twitter ($58,000) Facebook ($61,000) LinkedIn ($118,754)
1. Where to Start?
Mastery of your Profile.
->See Joshua’s tips for ROCKING YOUR PROFILE<-
Measure your LinkedIn SSI <–
Your Social Selling Index (SSI) measures how effective you are at establishing your professional brand, finding the right people, engaging with insights, and building relationships.
2. Influencing The Algorithm
LinkedIn wants INTERACTION with your network So, stop asking your network to ‘Share’ news, Ask them to give a relevant ‘Comment’ on it.
Daily Engagement Ideal
1 Post to add value to & engage with your audience
1 Share of an influencer that could add value for your audience
1 Like on an influencer
1 Comment on an influencer
1. DO NOT OVERSHARE SHARE | When you share more than ONE post a day, this has a negative impact on the views of all the posts shared that day. The algorithm wants to show the content to more members, instead of the content from 2 or 3 “heavy-users”
2. IF YOU POST MORE THAN ONCE | spread out by at least 3 hours
3. BEST DAYS + TIMES TO ENGAGE | Tuesday/Wednesday/Thursday at the times of 7-8AM/ 12PM/ 5-6PM in the time zone of you audience
4. 1ST HOUR IS CRUCIAL | Based on your algorithm LinkedIn will always show your post to several of your connections, regardless of the time of posting. GOAL: Get 20 engagements in the first hour RESULT: 10,000+ views
3. Creating Content | Be Human
1. Besides facts and expert knowledge, communicate customer experiences, success stories, business cases, Q&A, company activities, etc.
2. Make use of visual media, hashtags, tagging & relevant keywords.
3. TALK TO TEXT | Your content and comments should sound conversation as if you were talking WITH your audience not AT them. You can record yourself talking for better results than typing. Goal:: use 5th grade level speaking–
Resource to making your writing more bold and clear –> hemingwayapp.com
• Quality above all – forget about the algorithm if you are not planning to share valuable, relevant and trustworthy content!
• Engage with people who engage with you
• Appreciate others through Social Listening and build an emotional connection to draw in your ideal audience
Josh is in our community! Feel free to reach out guys!
LinkedIn | JOSHUA B. LEE
EMAIL | email@example.com
Father | Entrepreneur | Author | Coach
Joshua B. Lee is an entrepreneur, business owner, author, coach, marketeer, husband and father. In 2003, he built his career in online marketing with clients such as MySpace and Google managing over $100 million in advertising spend and controlling over 35 Trillion online impressions. He has built 16 companies from online marketing to coaching to web design and more, but is most passionate about human connections. His current venture, StandOut Authority, is about humanizing your professional and company brand on LinkedIn through authentic and inspirational engagement. He believes there is no B2B or B2C, only H2H, human to human connections.
Published author of Balance is Bullsh*t, he believes there is no work-life balance but an integrated life based on vision, relationships, health and business.
0-13 min — Catching up with the guys & Intro to Amber Vilhauer
13-19 min — Amber shares her background and context for the discussion on Live Streaming
19-22 min — Amber’s SUPER TIP for you to do RIGHT NOW
22-28 min — Concept of her Elevate Series
28-34 min — Running your own Live Stream Series
Jumped into small group discussion to talk about implementation
38-43 min — Q & A and group shares with Amber
43-45 min — Explanation and Visual Demonstration of a WATCH PARTY
45-56 min — Farewells and announcements for next calls
How to Get Market Share with Viral Live Streaming: Get Amber’s STEP BY STEP guide
Go hard on live streaming.
Live Streams are viewed 6x more than a prerecorded video
Amber found tremendous success growing her reach on social media by more than 800% just in the first 3 days with her recent Live Stream Series “ELEVATE”.
We highly recommend going back and following along with the replay video but here are some quick tips to implementing this live stream series strategy into your world:
Here’s Amber’s –> 6 Step Guide <–
6 Steps to Get Going
1. Book your sessions ASAP
Recommended by Amber
I’d suggest you stream one session by yourself as a “kick-off” to your own mini series. Use this time to express who you are, what you do for a living, and why you were compelled to join this series. Offer any action steps you recommend people take to recover and thrive both mentally and professionally. [example]
Next, I’d encourage you to host at least 2-3 more live sessions, but this time, invite your highest-status colleagues that have strong authority in your industry. Then you can facilitate a panel discussion to get their insights and ideas. [example]
2. Promote through social media platforms
–Changing Face Book profile picture
-Create an event, post graphics
3. Publish a Kick-off Post
–Go Live with a Kick-off video
4. Get Familiar w/ the Technical Guide for Live Streaming
—Review this document for assistance going live including the different platforms you could take advantage of
5. Prepare Your Talking Points
6. Pre & Post Promotions
Add a Promotion Post before EACH live stream session.
Re-purpose your replay once the live stream is over.
Here are Amber’s guides for::
Survey your audience find out who you’ve attracted and then ask them how you can support them further and out of that you will know how to leverage it in to monetize it.
Thanks to AMBER FOR THIS GOLD. & all the brothers who engaged today!
Find out more about Amber & Websites, Marketing, Book Launches
AMBER VILHAUER | Entrepreneur | Wife | Mother
AMBER’S #1 PRIORITY IS SIMPLE: ELEVATE EVERY EXPERIENCE.
Her life’s purpose is to help others feel seen, heard, loved and valued. She is highly-fulfilled in her work which centers around helping impact-driven influencers (both big and small) get their message out to the world in the most efficient and powerful way through digital marketing opportunities.
Due to her extensive experience in online business growth, combined with a relentless dedication to success, Amber has been able to:
–Achieve a 40-74% closing rate on webinars, and higher-than-average conversion rates across the board on anything from optin offers to click through rates to onboarding new customers.
–Grow from a 25% to 85% sales close on high-ticket prospect calls.
–Maintain a 50% word of mouth referral rate over the years.
–Build a strong multi-million dollar earning ‘first’ business.
–Attract in strategic partners who provide a regular flow of website and marketing clients, resulting in 7-figure earnings.
Find out more about Amber & Websites, Marketing, Book Launches
Is your work exhausting or stimulating?
0-3 min — Quick intro to Michael Chu & Champion Development Business
3-13 min — 1. Recreate your ideal quarantine routine
13-22 min — 2. Standards of Domains — “Domains Force Our Focus”
22-26 min — 3. Tech Triggers and transitions to/from domains
26-29 min — Quick journaling and then break into rooms of 2
30-60 min — Group Shares, changes, and implementations of 3 big ideas
3 BIG IDEAS
Recreate and intentionally design your quarantine routine
Get clear on what your standards are with your domains
1. Design your Routine
Create Psychological Safety by designating areas
–Make physical changes, like changing your clothes when changing spaces, to designate a shift in energy/ role
–Shape your environment by creating culture enhanced with psychological safety
Ex. Putting an un-pickable lock on your bedroom door to make that a safe space when connecting with your spouse without a kid coming in being in the back of your mind
5, 4, 3, 2, 1 — Mike Chu’s Example Week
5x/ wk morning routine in the bathroom
4x/ wk workout in a designated area where equipment stays in that space
3x/ wk Martial Arts Session
2x/ wk Planning sessions away from my desk
1x/ wk Go to Church
2. Standards of the Domain:
Domains Force Our Focus
When you’re at the gym, you work out.
When you’re at church you pray.
The collapse of our domains is creating more overlap in our roles leading accumulating stress and no space for release.
Get the family on board with what spaces are reserved for what kind of energy
–Sequester a room (close a physical door to create space)
–Label areas appropriately
–Change your kids focus too (create designated spaces for them to express themselves)
Think what will help you transition into the next domain
–What triggers can you create to physically and mentally disengage, to reengage in another domain
–With technology try and apply the same standards as if you were in your normal domain
Ex. When having a date night — at home — I found myself on my phone allowing work to overlap a date night dinner with her.. I needed to have a tech trigger put me into the next domain and say that “I’m shutting down now, I’m stepping into the domain of “date night”
Mike has recruited thousands and sold millions. He’s in high demand right now, and he’s a front row brother.
A few things to know about Michael Chu…
10X National Champion
Business Growth Expert
7 Figure Business Builder
Avid NY Sports Fan
Founder | Champion Development
Champion Development is the premier coaching and support program for entrepreneurs, direct sales leaders , and executives. When Mike first got into business he struggled with the balance between business and body.
Today, our programs teach the same strategies and mindsets that have helped me and hundreds of my clients get into the best shape of their lives while still growing their income.
Purdeep specializes in consulting business owners who are taking unexpected pivots in business, a very relevant feeling for many of us whether it’s offensively or defensively.
How can we be quick with our thinking, but not in a hurry.
On this call …
Pivoting your mindset from Business Model Thinking to Customer Centered Thinking.
Take time to reflect on which mindset you might be sitting with right now. The goal is to hone in on your stance, and once you’re clear with that…
What are your next moves?
How can you align with a customer centered approach when considering these two strategy styles:
Ex. garner customer loyalty for a greater return coming out of this
Ex. re-evaluate your staffing, remove risk from suppliers
—Network with other businesses who are doing well, don’t be afraid to join forces with the competition
—Human Capital: seeking the talent pool to secure the strategic thinkers that are going to get us out of this
—Fortify your Customer Relationships: The stronger the relationships, the more top of mind you will be. Send out gifts, acknowledgments, and garnering customer loyalty
Consider these aspects when applying
Product- what do you have to offer
Market- assess your target audience
Delivery- your strategy for engaging with your market
Offer- the deals and strategy behind your product
–Each strategy you deploy could actually be both offense and defense
—Network with people who are succeeding and doing well. Getting inspiration and motivation that comes from others success stories
–Taking advantage of ad space since big companies aren’t pouring as much into, for example, FB ads
Super Fans: How To Create Unwavering Customer Loyalty by Purdeep Sangha
Handwrytten: Company that produces handwritten letters to send to your customers
Purdeep | The Growth Strategist For Men In Business
Purdeep Sangha teaches men how to become a Profit-Multiplying Powerhouse. His personal mission is to help men grow their businesses massively, increase their personal fulfillment in life and improve their relationships with their wife and kids. He is the founder behind the movement #MenWhoWin, men who are mindful alpha males. As an award-winning author, entrepreneur, speaker, podcaster, business coach, husband and father, Purdeep knows exactly how tough it can be to balance a successful business with a happy family. After studying and working with some of the most successful men around the globe, Purdeep shows men the neuroscience behind becoming limitless.
Prior to starting his own business, Purdeep was a successful executive at multi-billion dollar organization before he walked into work one day and quit, cold turkey. Purdeep is popular for his expertise in business growth, male leadership the modern world and the neuroscience behind human potential.
Purdeep started his journey with Front Row Dads just a few days ago and I’m fired up to say the least for him to lead this call!
The Male Entrepreneur Podcast: http://malepodcast.com/
Here are a few bullet points:
- Stop giving power away to your boss, kids, and spouse
- The greatest threats to a man’s wellbeing.
- The power of creating a Code of Conduct
- How a Twelve-Week Battle Plan will ensure your sovereignty
1. Understanding HRV and tools to measure recovery
2. How to balance parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous system for longevity
3. The latest tech gadgets for personal and family contentment
Trainer: Lance Salazar
Covered in this call:
-The 3 core problems that move your relationship backward, and how to recognize them
-The 4 Legendary Relationship Elements that thriving marriages are built from
-A simple, yet effective daily routine you can do together to propel your marriage forward
Covered in this call:
-Why celebrating “reality” can be more powerful than “possibility”
-How to apply “unwavering faith + extraordinary effort” at home
-Developing a love that is deeper than you could have ever dreamed of