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The #1 Journey I’ve been on is accepting my wife for who she is 100% of the time.” – David Osborn

WHAT WE COVERED

Front Row Dad David Osborn shares how his use of the Enneagram in his marriage diffuses conflict, promotes acceptance and reveals personal blindspots. With the support of co-hosts Dr. Kelly F. and Les McDaniel, you’ll learn how you can purpose the enneagram for your own growth without weaponizing your learning against your partner.

Top Shares

• We all have tendencies, and knowing the ones that you don’t love about yourself  is a great place for nurturing and healing to start. Ex. Some enneagram types have tendencies to lean into righteousness during conflict.
• Within your type, you have “wing” types that add depth to your main type. Learning more about you and your partner’s wings allow you to get more granular with the traits that tend to show up in healthy and unhealthy versions of you.
• The enneagram gives you a 3rd party framework that a you can speak to during conflict so that you can move from personal attacks like  “I am..” and “You are..” to “As an 8 I’m doing this..”.
• What’s best for her, is better for us, even if it’s not what I want.” – Michael
  “Relinquish the need to be right” – Emilio
  “There’s no love in being right” – Michael
  “Acceptance is Freedom” – David
  

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Introduction

0-3 min  — Les McDaniel introduces David Osborn and sets the arch.

4-8 min  — David shares what a Thriving Marriage looks like to him and opens up about his marriage through the lenses of the enneagram.

8-13 min  — Break-Out Room Prompt

13-15 min — Biggest takeaways from breakout rooms

 

David Osborn Shares On The Enneagram & Application to His Marriage 

15-18 min —  Summary of the Enneagram Model

18-22 min —  How the Enneagram Diffuses Conflict & Promotes Acceptance

22-25 min — “AHAs” and Things David Learned About Himself

25-34 min —  How to purpose the enneagram for your own growth without weaponizing your learning

 

Crowdsourcing Takeaways

34-49 min — “When you have the urge to change or fix your partner during conflict…What’s the one takeaway/ idea / mantra that will remind you to accept them as they are?”

34-49 min — Healthy & Unhealthy Versions of Yourself

ABOUT OUR GUEST

David Osborn

David Osborn is a husband, father, entrepreneur, public speaker and author. He is a principal franchisee of the 7th-largest real estate company in the U.S. As a firm believer in the principles of knowledge sharing and giving back, he regularly speaks and teaches on entrepreneurial accountability and contributes to charitable causes.

He believes deeply in the freedom derived from his success is what truly awards him the time to focus on the importance on what matters most: being a proud father of two beloved daughters, a son and husband to the wonderful and talented Traci Osborn. He loves travel, skiing, golf, and reading, especially with his kids and family.

He is also A New York Times Bestselling Author, and has built one of the top real estate brokerages in the world.

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A thriving marriage is a marriage in which there is an increasing sense of safety for both spouses to increasingly show up as they are without protection – Dr. Kelly Flanagan

WHAT WE COVERED

• Practicing being non-defensive
• How to balance masculine and feminine energy
• Clues that you are in touch with your feminine energy
• How to recognize and detach from having an “agenda”
• 3 Concrete steps to revisit conversations that you aren’t able to create space for in the moment

Top Shares

• Be there for her to hear the things that you don’t want to hear as much as the things you do want to hear.
• When you find yourself in a fix it mode, ask yourself “What am I taking away from her growth by not allowing her to be where she is right now?”
• Also, when in fix it mode, you can try to ask yourself “What experience am I resisting right now or what experience am I attached to?
• Prior to a conversation ask yourself “What is my agenda here? Am I trying to get her to think something, am I trying to get her to do something different, am I trying to get her to see me in a certain way?”
• So much of holding space is about taking emotional punches without throwing them back.

 

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Introduction

0-3 min  — Dr. Kelly defines using his own words and from a recent experience, what a Thriving Marriage looks

3-9 min  — Journaling & breakout room activity

Can you recall a time you “held space” for your wife, letting go of your need to change the situation and instead just being fully present to it? What did you do or not do? How did it turn out?

9-13 min — Biggest takeaways from breakout rooms

 

Dr. Kelly Flanagan Teaching Moments

13-18 min —  Practicing being non-defensive

18-23 min —  How to find balance and hold space for masculine AND feminine energy

23-25 min —  Clues that you are in touch with your feminine energy.

25-32 min —  Tools to tap into our feminine energy & detaching from your agenda

32-34:30 min —  How to revisit conversations that you aren’t able to create space for in the moment

 

Q&A with Kelly

34:30-43:30 min — “How do I take the punches better when in an emotionally charged environment?”

43:30-48 min — “How do I navigate the frustration that arises when I’m pouring into my personal and professional growth and my spouse is not?”

 

ABOUT THE GUEST SPEAKER

Kelly Flanagan

Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a clinical psychologist, author, consultant, and speaker who enjoys walking with people through the three essentials of a truly satisfying life.

Kelly has a Ph.D. from Penn State University and is the founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. In 2012, he began his now popular blog, where he writes regularly about those three essentials: worthiness, belonging, and purpose. His writing has been featured in Reader’s Digest, The Huffington Post, The 5 Love Languages, and in 2014 a letter he wrote to his daughter led to their appearance on the TODAY Show.

In 2017, Kelly published his first book—Loveable: Embracing What Is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life—and it debuted as the #1 New Release in Interpersonal Relations on Amazon. His next book—True Companions is A Book for Everyone About the Relationships That See Us Through. Kelly is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly—because they decided to make life more complicated than it already is—and they have three children: Aidan, 17; Quinn, 13; and Caitlin, 11. They live in a small town outside of Chicago. Connect and learn more at www.drkellyflanagan.com

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