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Dads of Daughters: Building Bravery & Independence

TOPICS DISCUSSED

➭Importance of Dad as a Guide & Model

While Society forcibly emphasizes certain notions… How will we as Dads take a stance?

➭Building Bravery & Independence

 If the goal is for our daughters to stand up to us when they’re an adult, what can we do now? Women who are more self confident and brave are more likely to stand up to a sexual predator

➭Sex | Consent | Internal vs External Control

Understanding what is “appropriate”, and finding a balance between internal and external consequences

 

Intro

Joe shares a powerful reading from Untamed by Glennon Doyle to prompt a Macro View of a Woman’s Life Experiences Designed by Society.

 

 

 

Group Shares

Joe Sanok — When my daughter is upset, I’m searching within her to help her understand how she feels in that situation “how did it feel to fight with your sibling?”, “how did it feel when you won your soccer game?” to promote identification of her own feelings

Michael Wagner  — Noticing the desire to fight against extrinsic value of self. and making sure it’s an intrinsic self worth we are instilling in them

Group Share — Sometimes the wife ends up playing the martyr role… Then It’s a matter of how do to play to her strengths or step up myself.

Group Share — Even a 9 yr old is struggling with their opinions dramatically.  Realize that the quality of what we say to them is directly proportional to how they feel about themselves even at such a young age

Michael Wagner  — It’s our responsibility to model self acceptance by working out ourselves to have proper image so we aren’t showing them that they should be ashamed

 

Ideas to Strengthen Self-Worth

➭Wall of Feminism — as a subtle reminder in plain sight everyday

Joe Sanok has this for his 2 girls including aspects like a “be brave brilliant and bold” poster and images of strong female characters from movies.

➭Reading Books featuring Powerful Female Figures

Book — Goodnight Stories for Rebel girls : Kick-ass stories led by a female character

 

Mentions

Books

Untamed by Glennon Doyle 

Girls & Sex by Peggy Orenstein 

Cinderella Ate My Daughter by Peggy Orenstein

Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls

Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss

 

Article by Kelly Flanagan

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO HIS DAUGHTER (FROM THE MAKEUP AISLE)

A quick read and ultra relevant to this call**

 

About FRD Joe Sanok

If you don’t know Joe…

Joe Sanok is a member of the FRD brotherhood, a keynote and TEDx speaker, private practice consultant, mental health counselor, and has the #1 podcast for counselors, The Practice of the Practice Podcast.

He’s been featured in Forbes, Huffington Post, Entrepreneur on Fire, and The Eventual Millionaire. Joe is the author of five books on parenting and business.

His business, Practice of the Practice, teaches health care professionals how to grow income, innovation, influence, and impact on the world.

Joe’s a curious person who finds the balance of art and science. He’s a father to two strong and bold Lucia and Laken. He and his wife Christina love stand-up paddle boarding and getting to know their neighbors.

Listen to Joe on the Front Row Dad podcast episode #52 — Slowing Down: How to Take Fridays Off, Finish Work Early and Spend More Time with Family

 

Home-Schooling Resources

BOOKS+AUDIO

The 5 Hour School Week

By FRD Brother Aaron Amuchastegui and his wife, Kaleena. Overcrowded schools are taking up our children’s time and taking away from valuable life experiences. There’s a better way to learn. When Aaron and Kaleena Amuchastegui took their kids out of school to travel the globe and educate them through experiences, their children became more engaged, self-aware, curious, and passionate about learning.

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MEMBERS

FRD Michael Wagner

Mike and his is family are “road schooling” most of the year!

Feel free to reach out to Michael here or listen to the call he hosted around alternative schooling above.

 

FRD Jason Shinpaugh

“We have been traveling full time for 4 1/2 years and homeschooling 9 years. Happy to share anything that would be helpful.”

 

FRD Mike Higgins

“We have been homeschooling for 6 years. (Admittedly my wife would be better fit to lead any type of call). I’m happy to share anything I can that may be of value.”

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PROGRAMS

HSLDA Site

Long standing homeschooling group, offers support for every stage of your home school journey

 

Weekdays App

Marketplace for families and children to come together. Find and Join Amazing Neighborhood Micro-Schools

⭐ The Neuroscience of Conscious Leadership

Berghoff structures this emotional intelligence training around Daniel Friedland’s work on Leading Well From Within, Richard Boyatzis’s work on Emotional Intelligence, and Julianna Ray’s Unified Mindfulness methodology.

A few timestamps:
8:30 I begin introducing Jon.
10:30 Jon sets the tone and opens up about his own struggles
15:00 He starts drawing some pics (this is essential to the convo)
28:00 Emotional Intelligence Model
32:00 Triune Brain Model & Hierarchy of Needs
40:00 Cycles of Reactivity (Stress about stress) Ever get triggered? You need this

Questions to consider…

What’s happening in our world right now?
What does this mean, in our lives and in our work?
Where in your life are you experiencing stress and self doubt?
How might you reframe in a way that allows something new to be born?
How can we navigate this moment, in a way that shifts us from debilitating cycles of reactivity to upward spirals of conscious leadership?
During our call together, we will explore several frameworks that serve as an opportunity to liberate ourselves from destructive cycles.
Whether you are new to emotional intelligence and/or mindfulness meditation, or have decades of practice, you’ll appreciate the intersection between the teachings of several important guides for our modern day challenges.

Father | Husband | Founder XCHANGE
Jon Berghoff is the founder of the XCHANGE Approach, a scientific approach to unlocking collective wisdom in any group. To learn more, check out www.xchangeapproach.com.

⭐ Optimal Health with Sachin Patel

We went real deep and personal into the topic of plant medicine journeys. Here are a few of the great areas we explored..

    • HALF ELF exercise: A quarterly assessment to identify where energy is being allocating
    • Facing your trauma for a more clear tomorrow
    • A Different Vantage Point | A Hug from God
    • Fractal Patterns | Plant Medicine [MEO, Frog Poison, Psilocybin|
    • Starting your Journey. Taking the Staircase, Escalator, or Elevator
    • How Micro-dosing effects the brain
    • Dosage, frequency, intake
    • Dissolving your Ego and Surrendering to the experience

Clarity of Trauma

Come face-to-face with deep shit right now (like through plant medicine). Where in your life are you coming face to face with unresolved trauma. It’s holding you back from living your absolute best life as a father, husband, friend.

My parents lost their businesses and I had to understand how can a couple pour everything they have into a business and it still fail? I realized I was playing it safe in my own business because of that. – Sachin Patel

Micro-dosing

  • How the Brain is Effected
  • Dosage, intake, time of day suggestions and shares
  • Surrender to the Experience and understanding visions

Time Spent

Are you spending most of your time doing something you love and something you’re proud of?

It’s not the things we touch turn to gold, it’s the things we love to turn to gold – Sachin Patel

 

Identify things that are “H-A-L-F” vs “E-L-F”

HALF | Hard, Annoying, Lame, Frustrating

ELF | Easy, Lucrative, Fun

What can you get rid of that’s “HALF”, what can you do more of that’s “ELF”? Get a sense of what you spend most of your time doing. Tap into this quarterly to lean into what’s fun and delegate/ hand-off what’s not.

 

Mentions 

A Book to guide you in the beginning stages of your Journey (good to share with Spouse) — How to change your mind with Michael pollen.

Paul Stamets and Joe Rogan Podcast

 

So who is Sachin Patel, and what can you learn from him?  

With more energy and vitality, how much better of a dad, and husband will you be?

At one of our last retreats, Sachin hosted a life-altering Q&A session with 39 attendees.

Minds were blown.

Someone handed me a note on the break that said, “Give Sachin a free lifetime membership.”

They loved him, and when he was done, they were hungry for more.

I wasn’t sure if our guys were more impressed by how powerfully and energetically he showed up to our retreat participating 100% in every activity, or the immense wisdom he shared in this 90-minute session – either way, his message resonated and was a huge hit.
“The doctor of the future is the patient”

His philosophy is that “The doctor of the future is the patient” and he is actively doing whatever it takes to keep people out of the medical system by empowering them through education, self-care, and remapping their mindset.  

 

Read more about him here

Ali Jafarian & Joe Sanok

Building a Family & a Business

In this recording, Front Row Dads Ali Jafarian & Joe Sanok are going to unpack and explore some of what they’ve dealt with over the past number of years as they built themselves up to the success where they’re at, not only from a business standpoint but also for my family standpoint.

About

Ali Jafarian is the founder and CEO of MemberDev and does a lot in the technology and software space. Ali has two children he’s based in Colorado he loves being outdoors, hiking, and being in the mountains with his family. He has three different businesses currently, one of which he just sold recently, and is very active in managing and building different businesses.

Joe Sanok is a curious person who finds the balance of art and science. He’s a father to two strong and bold Lucia and Laken. He and his wife Christina love stand-up paddle boarding and getting to know their neighbors. Joe is the founder of Practice of the Practice which teaches health care professionals how to grow income, innovation, influence, and impact on the world. He ran a counseling business for a number of years that he sold, he also currently has a large membership community of over four hundred people, hosts a podcast, and you coach other people on how to start a podcast.

Mike Brcic

How to Get Closer to Autopiloting your Business

In this recording Mike Brcic lays out the tools for you to be able to autopilot your business, manage your energy levels, and get issues resolved in the workplace (and at home).

About

Mike Brcic is the Founder of Wayfinders, a community-builder and serial entrepreneur by nature. He is passionate about helping entrepreneurs live inspired, more connected lives. Via his events and adventure retreats around the world with Wayfinders, Mike helps entrepreneurs find the tribe and the support they need to achieve great things and personal fulfillment. He is a passionate speaker on many topics related to entrepreneurship, community building, and mental health. Via his [ALIGNED] blog series, he shares tips and resources to help entrepreneurs find more alignment in their lives.

The Core Values Equation

Structuring our businesses so that we consciously choose to be family men with businesses, not business men with families.   

Speaker: Darius Mirshahzadeh
Topics: The Core Value Equation

1. Making the best decisions when the answer isn’t always clear

2. Maintaining a strong and consistent culture as your business rapidly grows

3.Attracting and retaining the best talent who are a strong culture fit

Darius Mirshahzadeh

Core values expert, Darius, is an Inc. 500 CEO, ranked number 40 in Inc. 500 in 2007, with 2500% plus revenue growth in three years of business, Twin Capital Mortgage. he has grown companies from startup to just under a thousand employees in under three years.

The Core Value Equation is a step-by-step guide that all startups, founders, and CEO’s should read if they wan to have their teams speaking the same language and build a thriving company culture.” “Darius Mirshahzadeh wrote a book that truly matters.

How to Autopilot your Business w/ Mike Brcic

Structuring our businesses so that we consciously choose to be family men with businesses, not business men with families.   

Speaker: Mike Brcic
Call Outline:

0-2 min — Mike Brcic intro by Les McDaniel

2-6 min — Mike’s backstory to building a business and exiting in 4 weeks

6-7 min — Why Our Companies Overwhelm Us

7-11 min — Checking Your Ego when it comes to GROWTH

AUTOPILOT SYSTEM

11-13 min — Create a Vivid Vision for your Business

13-15 min — Create Your Guiding Principles

15-18 min — Assess Profit & Cash Flow

18-26 min — Create Playbooks for Your Team

26-30 min — Create an Issues List for the Team to Document Non-Emergencies

30-32 min — Create Meeting Rhythms | Suggested Meeting Agenda

37-57 min — Q&A with Mike Brcic

 

FIRST, CHECK YOUR EGO.

Be clear about why you’re in your business and why you might want to scale and at what cost. Then look to the Autopilot development system for promoting a healthy family / business balance.

“Stop scaling if it takes away from family time.”

Why Our Companies Overwhelm Us

  • Staff rely on us to make decisions
  • Staff rely on us to know how to do things
  • Cash flow issues are stressful AF
  • We’re always putting out fires
  • We are really good at saying yes

 

 

NOW, DEVELOP YOUR AUTOPILOT SYSTEM

  1. Create a Vivid Vision & Define your Guiding Principles

  2. Assess Profit & Cash Flow

  3. Create Playbooks

  4. Create Meeting Rhythms to Connect Your Team

1. CREATE YOUR GUIDING PRINCIPLES

  • Make them mean something: take a stand
  • Don’t be afraid of exclusionary language (don’t try to
    be everything to everyone)
  • 3 to 6 principles is best
  • Make them part of daily/weekly discussion: refer to
    them frequently and guide staff to them when making decisions
  • Make them prominent

2. PROFIT & CASH FLOW FOCUS

Care about the bottom line!
  • Look at the roles in your company
  • Look at software subscriptions

3. CREATE PLAYBOOKS

There is likely a TON of intellectual property in your head. Document every system that exists and the procedures that happen on a regular basis.

Start by creating a spreadsheet to utilize as a table of contents for every task and link to google doc that spell each procedure out step by step so that anyone can step in and take over a task.

TIP: Make a goal to create a playbook for one thing/ week that you do, on a weekly basis.

Create This Issues Management Tool

Create a spreadsheet for all the issues that arise in your business (also applicable in the family!) This reserves a space to document issues that are non-emergencies but need to be addressed at a designated time.

Create This Energy Management Tool

Create a spreadsheet for all the tasks involved in your business.  Identify tasks that are sucking your energy and decide what needs to be delegated or deferred based on you and your team member’s area’s of competence.

Use the following legend to label tasks

  • UA = Unique Ability Something you love doing, you’re good at it, and it’s a reasonable use of your time and money
  • E = Excellent
  • C = Competent
  • I = Incompetent: Something you suck at or something that really drains you

4. MEETING RHYTHMS TO CONNECT YOUR TEAM

7-minute Huddle Focus: What are you working on and where are you stuck?

90-minute Huddle Focus: Looking at company metrics & taking time to shoot the shit

MEET MIKE BRCIC

 

Mike 

is a father of 3 incredible kids, a husband, and loves to ride his bike around his city in Toronto!
Founder/Chief Explorer
Wayfinders

A serial entrepreneur with multiple business and projects over 20+ years, these days I’m super passionate about connecting people (especially entrepreneurs) and building community.

My current focus is on Mastermind Adventures where I invite amazing entrepreneurs to join me on mindblowing adventures around the world – to help them build their tribe and community while having a ridiculous amount of fun.

mike@way-finders.com

The Struggle to Juggle w/ Adam Stock

Structuring our businesses so that we consciously choose to be family men with businesses, not business men with families.   

Speaker: Adam Stock
Topics: Strategic Calendar Planning

 

Treat the process of strategic calendar planning with the same intensity for your personal life as you do your business life.

Call Outline:

0-4 min — Training Overview

4-9 min — The 3 Limited Resources

9-21 min — Time Blocking Techniques | Is your calendar reflecting your priorities?

21-26 min — How to avoid overworking | Be clear on your NON-NEGOTIABLES

26-34 min — Making time for clients WITHOUT reserving your whole day for them

34-41 min — What does your ideal day look like? What sacrifices do you need to make to make this happen?

41-43 min — Spousal Resistance to Planning

43-45 min — Magical Phrase to transform your prioritization

45-51 min — Prioritizing Personal Energy

51-59 min — Q&A with Adam and the guys.

Time Blocking Techniques

  • Block out “breaks” in your calendar for personal time
  • Color code your calendar between personal time, family time, and business items
  • Take a big picture look and plan out your year as far as you can see
  • Buffer blocking: holding space for things that aren’t planned in concrete as a flex space
  • Create a plan and map out light at the end of the tunnel for your spouse (vacations)
  • Block off the day before and after big event days for energy restoration
  • When planning to get into a hardcore season of working,  book end the work with family vacations on the front end and back end
  • Make annual vacations 2 weeks if you can, and have some kind of quarterly mini-vacation.

Crowd-sourcing

How to say no to clients without loosing them?

  • I have worked myself out from 99% of ‘shit’ coming in from clients. Most of the time I don’t even hear about it. I would suggest to systemically identify the type of events that come up, then build systems to cover you.
  • something that has helped me is to schedule buffer time in daily, call the clients and construction teams to get ahead of any potential issues before they become urgent.
  • Another option is to extend the meeting time by 15 minutes to allow buffer time.
  • Even if I am sending / replying to emails late at night, I’ll schedule them to send in the morning, so I don’t train clients to think I will respond immediately at all hours..
  • Block “return call times”. 2-3 x per day

 

Crowd-sourcing

What does your ideal calendar look like?

  • Time blocking business development not just working business
  • One that does not seem over crowded and overwhelming
  • Time to work out, meditate, work 8 hours without family distractions
  • Done working by 2pm daily
  • Quality Kid time to start the day–> 2 coaching calls–> exercise and meditate–> 2 hours personal/business development–> family time–> wife time
  • Up early, productive time early then breakfast with family
  • Breakfast, 2-3 hr AM work, lunch, 2-3 hr PM work, late afternoon flex and family time
  • Scheduling time with my Wife and for myself daily. 5-8PM = Kids. 8-10 PM = Wife
  • Morning SAVERS time first, famly time breakfast and exercise, teaching kids morning (while we’re doing remote), business through early afternoon, family from 4pm thru rest of day—–  4 days per week,   golf on Friday morning /afternoon
  • Start at 5am, home by 5, shut off by 6pm.
  • Up early enough to get in my morning routine, and workout. Then family time , then work – creative till noon. Clients in the afternoon, a quick workout/ yoga, done by 4, family time till 8, then relax.

 

Own the fact that you choose to prioritize different things:

Instead of saying…”I didn’t have time”
Say to yourself…”I chose to prioritize other things”

 

Resources

 

Book | 12-week year is another good book on time blocking.

Book | I’ve been reading on the topic of your schedule is a reflection of priorities is “How will you measure your life” by Clayton M. Christensen.

Podcast | Working for Family Freedom with Justin Donald

Brad Johnson shared this resource with the Facebook page yesterday also.  He said page 23 took a deep dive on the calendar also. https://www.dropbox.com/s/r4n9kpkfuny1vid/9-Dan-Sullivan-3-in-1-Strategy.pdf?dl=0

#SHARE = 4 THINGS THAT INFLUENCE YOUR ENERGY.

1)How much you sleep! Know your # to survive and your # to thrive.

2) What do you eat? Do you eat for taste or do you eat for ENERGY?

3)How much do you exercise? The more you move, the more energy you have.

4)  How much water do you drink?  Shoot for 1 gallon/day!

 

 

Meet Adam Stock  | Father of 5

A lifelong resident of the Chicago suburbs, Adam currently lives in Evanston with his wife, Melinda, daughters Eliana and Mayah, and sons Sammy, Max and Solomon.
Hobbies: personal and professional growth, karaoke, playing violin. Also LOVES playing basketball
Adam Stock is the founder of The Next Level Planning Group, a family wealth management firm based in Chicago.

 

Adam Is Passionate About Three Things:

1. Helping Clients Navigate The Many Financial Challenges In The Present So They Can Experience A More Meaningful And Joyful Financial Future.

2. Mentoring. He is always teaching the art and science of financial planning, and the principles of how to be a true professional.

3. Entrepreneurship. Adam derives great satisfaction from helping his business-owner clients locate strategic partners to accelerate the growth of their businesses.

 

FRD Podcast Interview with Adam

Mastering your Family Calendar

Ken Wimberly

Creating Your Legacy of Love

Ken, the founder of Legacy of Love, is an entrepreneur and Front Row Dad based in Fort Worth, Texas. Amber is Ken’s wife. Their kids are Grace, age 17, Knox, age 15, and Kai, age 4.  

“Hey there, we’re the Wimberlys.

If you’re anything like my wife and me, you want to cherish every moment with your kids and be a great parent. The memories we make with family are often the #1 thing that makes us the most happy and fulfilled in our day-to-day lives.

So, why is it so easy to let life get in the way?” 

Chris Smith

Your Family Brand

In this recording, Chris’ mission is to inspire Front Row Dads to take a stand for their family and create an intentional culture in their home, so that you can discover what it is you want to be known for as a family.

About

Chris previously is the Founder of Campfire Effect where teaches business owners and entrepreneurs how to tell the story of their business very high-energy passionately that allows it will resonate with their customers. More recently, Chris started Family Brand to make it super simple for families to discover how to create an intentional culture in their home that leads to greater love, joy and connection while reducing stress and overwhelm.

“WE BELIEVE THE GREATEST GIFT A PARENT CAN GIVE THEIR CHILD IS A LAST NAME THAT STANDS FOR SOMETHING.”

Dr. Kelly Flanagan

The Ego Castle & 4 Types of Anger

In this recording Dr. Kelly Flanagan unpacks what he calls an “ego castle” to give us an understanding of what happens in the construction of one’s “self” and how this knowledge can be applied to help us and our kids embrace our true self.

About

Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a clinical psychologist, author, consultant, and speaker who enjoys walking with people through the three essentials of a truly satisfying life. He is the founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. His blog writings about those three essentials—worthiness, belonging, and purpose—have been read by millions and featured in Reader’s Digest, The Huffington Post, and The 5 Love Languages. In 2014, he and his daughter appeared on the TODAY Show together.

In 2017, Kelly published his first book, Loveable, which debuted as the #1 New Release in Interpersonal Relations on Amazon. His next book, True Companions, will be published in February 2021. He lives with his wife and their three children—Aidan, 17; Quinn, 13; and Caitlin, 11—in a small town outside of Chicago. Connect at www.drkellyflanagan.com.

Embrace your worthiness, build your belonging, and clarify your purpose

⭐ How to Turn Off Biz Mode

Speaker: Front Row Dad Matt Drinkhahn
Call Outline:

0-3 min — Matt Sprang intro to Matt Drinkhahn (Band Mates)

3-5 min — How does your family react to you when you get off work?

5-6:30 min — Setting the Intention for this call

6:30-9 min — Epic Dad Fail: How business mode affected how I treated my little girl

9-16:30 min — Strategy #1: The Bookends of the Day

16:30-22 min — Strategy #2: Defining “Biz Mode” and “Dad Mode”

22-32 min — Prepping the family for “busy seasons” at work

32-57 min — Insightful Q&A from fathers in the community

38-42 min — Trusting your system at work, so you don’t carry it to family life

 

#1 SET THE INTENTION FOR THE BOOKENDS OF THE DAY

Part I: Start your day with an emotional anchor. Clarify your intention to be able to transition with an understanding of what role you want to step into.

a. Ask yourself a question around your marriage (write it down!)

Ex. Who do I need to show up as for my wife to say I’m a good listener?

b. Ask yourself a question about your children (write it down!)

Ex. Who do I need to show up as, for my kids to know that I love and treasure them?

Part II: Closing out your day. Report back to yourself and (if applicable) to those who hold you accountable (band mates, best friends, your spouse, a relative).

a. Did I do my best today to listen to spouse?
b. Did I do my best today to love and treasure my kid?

 

TIP —  Remote Work & Home Life Integration: Set the intention with your business that there may interruptions, kids coming in, or loud noises. Let them know about your environment and what they might expect.

 

#2 GET CLEAR ON WHAT BIZ MODE & DAD MODE LOOKS LIKE FOR YOU

Use these questions or your own rendition of them, to write down your answers and begin reflecting at the end of the week on how you measured up to your answers.

1. What does successful dad mode and business mode look like combined?

2. How might you create a legendary life when you’re a super dad, super husband, and superman in business?

3. What strengths might I rely on in each of these modes?

4. How might I turn this challenge into my biggest advantage?

TIP —  ENTER THE WEEKEND WITH LESS STRESS: Carve out time on your calendar [INBOX ZERO]. Where you spend 1 hr or less on relieving your weekend of the pressure of a full inbox. Use the strategy of the 4 D’s- Delete it, Delegate it, Defer it, or Do it.

 

Book References

Ray Dalio – Principles
Hal Elrod – Miracle Morning
Steven Covey – The 7 Habits
David Allen – Getting Things Done

MEET MATT & THE FAMILY

 

Front Row Dad Matt

is a father of 3 sweet little girls Lucy, Lily & Caroline, and husband to Julie Drinkhahn!
Business Coach at
ProAdvisorCoach

 

My goal is to make an immediate impact for my clients so they can accelerate their personal and professional growth through our fully developed online coaching platform.  It is my mission to shine the light on all aspects of one’s vision so that success can be realized through self-awareness and intentional action.